Farewell, my love… Until we meet again

Not even all of the performers from the epic opening number

Not even all of the performers from the epic opening number of MPD Asia Pacific

And so it is.

The final term at Bobbi’s Pole Studio Singapore has wrapped up, Miss Pole Dance Asia Pacific was SPECTACULAR, and the after party was a blast.

I must have posed for a hundred photographs with different people, and it still wasn’t even enough.

The whole week or so since classes officially ended had been very surreal. Shit started getting real for me on the very last Sunday of classes, then during the last week of term performances, especially when I emcee-ed on the last night.

And then yesterday happened. The big event, aka Miss Pole Dance Asia Pacific.

Even though the performers for the opening number all showed up at 10am in the morning to start rehearsals for the event, it all happened so fast in a swirl of shiny heels, swishing hair, and passed by all too quickly.

All the months of endless rehearsals for the opening number paid off in 3 minutes. We all went in every Saturday morning at 9.am for 2 hours, and again during the week from 9.30 to past 11 p.m. And it’s no mean feat to organise between a massive 30-strong group of students, junior and senior instructors, who live across 3 different countries, including Bobbi herself!

Most people will never know the amount of work that goes into crafting a 3-minute dance routine, but the ones who do will appreciate it all. And one of the girls in the opening number even got MARRIED in the day and came back at night to perform with the rest of us! (I thought I was dedicated to pole, but well if you think you’re really dedicated, ask yourself now if you would think to fit a group performance into the day of your own WEDDING?!!)

Happily, I didn’t kick or get kicked by any of the dancers around me and we all looked great together on stage!

As usual, I was one of the official pole cleaners for the competition. I know that it seems almost glamorous to be all dressed up and swanning around the stage in between competitors, but pole cleaning is actually hard work!

Each competitor has different requests for how she wants the pole cleaned. (Wiped with a clean cloth only/ wiped with alcohol only/ Dry Hands applied all over/ Shaving gel applied in the middle of the static pole only, but not too much / layer the whole thing with alcohol, shaving gel and Dry Hands… well you get the idea..) Plus I’m already pretty tall in my 7″ boots, but competition poles are so high that they need a triple-climb minimum to reach the top.

Not that I’m complaining, because if there’s anything I can possibly do to help competitors stick to their poles, I will gladly do it for them.

And after all it was the event of the year, full of love with pole stars, dancers and friends from all over the Asia Pacific region. And well, just full of love.

To every one who performed, competed, organised, helped out, came to watch and support, and even if you just wanted to be there but couldn’t, thank you so much. It was everything we could have hoped for and more, and the best possible way to close the chapter of our beloved Bobbi’s Pole Studio here in Singapore.

Don’t be too sad just yet though, because fortunately there’s a rainbow after the rain and it’s coming real soon. Yes, The Brass Barre will soon be born in the very same location, featuring none other than the very same instructors from Bobbi’s Singapore. I’ll tell you more about it very soon!

In the meantime, here are a few photo highlights from last night:

Sexy cops Team A

The unicorn-haired sexy cops of Team A




selfie-ing away the pre-performance jitters


Pinoko, aka hottest hair-flipper of the night. When I met her in Tokyo, it was the first thing I noticed!


Floorwork splits in all directions!



Taking the cop thing very seriously


My adorable fellow pole cleaners/pole sisters

The amazing competitors! 1st: Gracie, 2nd: Pinoko, 3rd: Elena

The amazing competitors! 1st: Gracie, 2nd: Pinoko, 3rd: Elena

Maxi Shields getting the party started

Maxi Shields getting the party started

Pole cleaners reporting for duty

Pole cleaners reporting for duty

Working hard

Working hard on those poles

And a few from the studio too:

Last Beginner Slap Class

Last Beginner Slap Class

My awesome Rude Girls

My awesome Rude Girls

The boys getting their Magic Mikes on

Our Backstreet boys getting their Magic Mikes on

The crowd was so huge at the last night of performance that the girls had to wait in the next studio until their turn to perform, then go back out!

The crowd was so huge at the last night of performance that the girls had to wait in the next studio until their turn to perform, then go back out!


Couldn’t resist

Happy girls & boys

Happy girls & boys

These girls sure know how to work it in the studio

These girls sure know how to work it in the studio

Last pic of the night cos we didn't want to leave: Junior teachers in our tiny teachers' changing room

Last pic of the night cos we just didn’t want to leave: Junior teachers in our tiny teachers’ changing room

Massive we-fie from the last night of performances at the studio.

And finally, the massive we-fie from the last night of performances at the studio.

It’s the end of this chapter, but we’ll begin a brand new together one real soon okay?

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It’s the final term at Bobbi’s and I’m teaching, who?!?!

Post-class we-fie

Post-class we-fie

So here we are, half way into the final term of Bobbi’s Pole Studio Singapore.

Although everyone is feeling sad that it’s going to be the last term for Bobbi’s, it’s been fantastic to do classes again with so many of my old pole buddies!

It feels just like old times now that everyone is back, and it’s this whole community of familiar pole sisterhood that makes the studio such a happy place to be in, in the first place.

I’m super glad that my Beginner Slap class on Friday ended up getting overbooked again and the studio opened a second class on Sunday so we didn’t have to turn anyone away!

But as much as I adore teaching Striptease and Lapdance, I also enjoy teaching pole. Last term, I wasn’t assigned any actual Beginner level classes but ended up teaching 10 pole dancing trial classes, so thankfully I did get my chance to teach some Beginner-level pole. (And I know of half a dozen girls who signed up for a full term following some of those trial classes, so I must have been doing something right!)

This term though, the studio isn’t offering any more pole dancing trial classes as it’s the already the last term. So I thought I wasn’t going to be teaching any more pole classes.


“Remember to point your toes as you spin…”

But… sometimes things have a funny way of happening!

As it turns out, the guys’ class suddenly needed a teacher because the guy who taught them last term wasn’t free to teach them anymore.

I know right ….the GUYS’ class?!?! It’s not exactly something that was ever on my list of teaching goals, or even something I would have considered a possibility before.

But like I said, things have a funny way of happening.

Now I know what you might be thinking, and no… these guys are definitely *not* the kind of male pole dancers who rock stripper heels, sparkly shorts and fall under the ‘pole sisters’ category. They are dudes.


Planking like pros

Ordinarily, I would never have agreed to teach a bunch of dudes if I wasn’t already kind of familiar with them.

But last term I taught on the same day as their classes, so I ended up seeing them every week and having friendly conversations with them cos well, they’re a nice bunch!

And then of course, my birthday at the studio happened where Po.Lita arranged for all of them to surprise me with a collective lap dance, and I got to know them all so much better up close and personal!

That’s right.  The guys’ class collectively gave me a group lap dance last term right after the studio’s student performances. It was crazy funny, and I don’t think many girls will ever experience 20 dudes taking turns to shake it for them in front of an extremely enthusiastic live audience.

Anyway, my point is that since the guys weren’t total strangers to me anymore, when the opportunity came to teach them some pole, I thought, ‘heck, why not!’.

Thankfully, one of the junior teachers agreed to teach it with me. May is a natural at choreographing and she can bust out power moves on command.

And so, we have been teaching the guys every week for the past month, and it has been a totally new teaching experience!

There are different challenges to teaching guys, like how to modify tricks for them (upper body strength is not an issue but flexibility can be) how to spot someone bigger than us (we get them to partner up and assist us in spotting each other) and how to teach them sexy choreography (The are surprisingly game!)

The song we picked for them is “I Want It That Way” By none other than the Backstreet Boys. Because, Magic Mike 2!!!!!!!

We were initially worried that they might not like it but the moment we played the song for the first time and they all started singing it, we knew it would work. And like one of them casually admitted, they all have a secret Backstreet Boy inside of them, which I fully intend to bring out into the open!

Also, since most of the class had already completed Beginner level last term, it’s been a great chance for us to teach more intermediate-level stuff like inverts and aerial tricks, which they have all the strength for!

I’ve sat into many classes where the Jamilla cradle spin was taught for the first time, and I’d never seen a 100% first-timer success rate until we taught it to the guys! And I do believe that in the history of Bobbi’s Pole Studio here, this is the first time we’ve had a guys class taught by 2 girls. With the extra irony being that I mostly teach the ultra-girly Beginner Slap.

But yes, I know the guys will eventually turn into handspringing/flagpoling/deadlifting beasts and soon I won’t be able to keep up with them anymore. But for now, until they master all the basics, they are still enjoyably teachable. And I get to open the doors every week and actually say, ‘Hello, boys!’ Lol.

Anyway I never would have thought that I’d be teaching a bunch of dudes how to pole dance, let alone be enjoying it, but I thoroughly am.

Oh, and if you’re a Bobbi’s Babe here, they will be performing their awesome Backstreet Boys routine at our very last performance week and it’ll be hot! Just saying…

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Happy, what?

Haha, I wish..

Haha, I wish..

Happy birthday to meee!

Haha I know right, which maniac wishes themselves a happy birthday? …apparently I do!

The truth is though, I’m actually not that huge on birthdays.

It’s been many years since I threw myself a party or had a big celebration (though I always appreciate a good cake) and I don’t need for my hubby to buy me anything unless there was something specific I really wanted.

Like that time he bought me my pole. And that other time he bought me full-length mirrors to go with it. But apart from that, he can save his money on random trinkets.

When he asked me last night if there was anything I would like, (“is there any yoga package/ pole stuff / Victoria Secret shopping you want me to pay for?”) the first thing that popped into my head was, ‘I would like you to mop the floor!’. Cos I do!

So I’m quite easily pleased!

This year in particular , I already feel like I have everything I want and need, and I’m very thankful for it all. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying my life is by any means perfect, but it’s definitely awesome!

Anyhoo, I also wanted to thank you (yes, you!) for being here and reading this. I know I’m a terribly unproductive blogger in general but at least I’m still here! And so are you, so thank you.

And if anyone wants to know, I’m 36 but you can just wish me a happy 21st, 25th, or 27th!

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Waiting for a rainbow

Note to self....

Note to self….

By now, just about every pole dancer in Singapore would have heard the news: Bobbi’s Pole Studio Singapore is closing its doors for good after more than 5 years here.

Our beloved principal and director is moving to Australia with her family, and the studio simply won’t be able to go on without her.

Yes, there are all sorts of rumours flying around about how the studio wasn’t doing well, got eaten up by competition, or fell victim to internal politics… but its actually been flourishing with full capacity classes, and there are more new students now than there have been in the past year and a half. Which just makes things all the more tragic and ironic. But it’s always good to go out on a high note, I suppose…

The news was released on the studio’s Facebook platforms on Sunday night and within minutes, hearts were breaking all over the place and most of my friends were in tears.

Even though I had a longer time to process the news, I’m still completely crushed that my one and only home studio will cease to exist very soon.

People have been asking me what my plans are after Bobbi’s closes, and to be honest I don’t have any because I still can’t picture life without that lovely pink studio that I call my second home.

Of course, in the grander scheme of things I’m well aware that losing your favourite pole studio is but a first-world problem, but that doesn’t mean it hurts any less.

In fact, I’ve already been through all the different stages of grieving: Disbelief (Huh, what do you mean, closing..?), Anger, (WTF?! How could this happen?!!) Bargaining, (Maybe if I sold my house/my kidney/my SOUL then the studio wouldn’t have to close..?) Depression, (My life has no more meaning… *sob!*) and finally Acceptance. (Which doesn’t mean you’ve embraced the situation, only that you’ve come to terms with it as a reality.)

And every morning I’d wake up wondering if I imagined everything, hoping that it was all just a bad dream, and then I’d go through that entire range of emotions again. It felt like being strapped in on a terrible roller coaster ride that just wouldn’t stop and let me off.

But enough already!

This term isn’t over yet, and next term is set to be mad exciting! Cos the studio is bringing back all the most popular routines from the past, and we’re all going to dance our hearts out one last time before the curtains come down on us.

I’ll be teaching my personal favourite Beginner Slap routine next term, Rude Boy by Rihanna, which I am totally looking forward to!

Speaking of beginner Slap, this term my class on Fridays got oversubscribed (what a happy problem!) so I now teach a second class of Beginner Slap on Sundays. I’m also very thankful that I finally get a chance to teach Beginner level pole this term too, as I now teach a trial pole dancing class every Sunday this term as well. If you’ve got friends who’d like to try a taster class, please send them my way!

So anyway, I really don’t know what I’ll be doing after the final Term 5 at Bobbi’s, (aside from trying to blog more often!) but I do know that I’m not going to waste any more time being sad and instead I’m just focusing on making every moment count!

After all, they say that after every storm comes a rainbow… so the only plan I have now is to find it…

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Beginner Slap FTW!

The hot, sexy babes of Beginners Striptease & Lapdance!

The hot, sexy babes of Beginners Striptease & Lapdance!

Oh boy.. it’s already June and I’ve only managed to cheek in to this poor blog a grand total of 4 times!

So much has been going on in my pole life, work life and personal life lately. I’ve had so much I wanted to say and share but so little energy. (I won’t say I didn’t have time, because we all have the same number of hours in the day, and I believe that we make time for our priorities… so if you didn’t do something, it just wasn’t really a priority of yours.)

But to be honest, it’s been tough trying to figure out what’s appropriate to talk about over here now.

There have been times I’ve felt excited, frustrated, ecstatic, bewildered, etc, but I couldn’t tell if they were things I should have been sharing outside of the studio walls.

And when in doubt, say nothing, right? So I did.

I was even approached as a blogger to review online lessons by a pole dancer I really admire and whom I would love to learn from…  I really wanted to do it, but it wouldn’t have been a good idea so I heaved a big sigh and wistfully decided.

At times like that, I wondered if I’ll still be able to blog as freely as I always have, and I still don’t really have the answer yet…


“Oh my, it’s getting cheeky in here!”

What I do know, is that I’ve really enjoyed teaching and that I’ve been learning an incredible amount in a very short time!

I’ve been teaching some hen’s parties, trial classes, and I just taught my first full term of Beginner Strip and Lap Dance. And you know how much I love Slap, so teaching it has been such a pleasure as well!

Funnily enough, when I first joined Bobbi’s Pole Studio as a student 4.5 years ago, the first-ever Slap routine I learned was ‘If’ by Janet Jackson, and I taught the very same routine this term!

So it was twice as special to me. 🙂

Also, I’ve been incredibly blessed to have fabulous students who actually continued showing up week after week, and were a dream to teach.

Sure, you say.. all teachers say their students are awesome… Um, not really.

Teaching aside, I’ve been a student long enough to know that some girls can be downright mean, difficult, and even disruptive. Occasionally in the middle of class! I’ve even heard horror stories about students who’ve told teachers to their face that they didn’t think they were good enough to be teaching them!

So yes, I’m very thankful that my first batch of students were all lovely! And sexy. And Fabulous!

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Stepping into a whole new world!

With my new pole family... I love these girls!

With my new pole family… I love these girls!

Something new has happened since the last time I updated this poor neglected blog and went M.I.A…

At the start of the year I accepted an invitation to start teaching at Bobbi’s Pole Studio Singapore, where I’d been a student for over 4 years now. (Can’t believe it’s been that long!)

That translated into sending an audition video to Bobbi herself, getting approved by her, starting loads of teacher training, performing at the studio as a teacher-in-training, learning how to teach, and rehearsing like mad for the opening number of Amateur Night 2015,  the annual student competition event that was held last weekend.

I barely had time to spend with my cat, let alone had energy to blog about anything!

But now the event is done and I’ve a little breathing space, and so that’s what I’ve been up to.

I’m still getting used to it all, and dealing with the new pace, (it’s a lotttt faster now!) and finding the balance between how I see myself as a pole dancer, and how I need to be seen as a pole dancer, if that makes sense.

Although I’m still very far from where I was over a year ago in terms of strength and stamina, I’ve definitely gotten my pole mojo back cos now I’m super motivated to improve!

And I’ve definitely been having the most fun with pole that I’ve ever had in a long time,  because of the awesome new family of pole sisters that I now have in the new teaching team. (Omg, I’m an instructor now!!..?!!)

Anyway, here’s a video of our debut group performance together. (I start out lying down on the stage right at the start, but once the senior teachers take the stage for their amazing doubles you won’t be able to take your eyes off them!)

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