It’s the final term at Bobbi’s and I’m teaching, who?!?!

Post-class we-fie

Post-class we-fie

So here we are, half way into the final term of Bobbi’s Pole Studio Singapore.

Although everyone is feeling sad that it’s going to be the last term for Bobbi’s, it’s been fantastic to do classes again with so many of my old pole buddies!

It feels just like old times now that everyone is back, and it’s this whole community of familiar pole sisterhood that makes the studio such a happy place to be in, in the first place.

I’m super glad that my Beginner Slap class on Friday ended up getting overbooked again and the studio opened a second class on Sunday so we didn’t have to turn anyone away!

But as much as I adore teaching Striptease and Lapdance, I also enjoy teaching pole. Last term, I wasn’t assigned any actual Beginner level classes but ended up teaching 10 pole dancing trial classes, so thankfully I did get my chance to teach some Beginner-level pole. (And I know of half a dozen girls who signed up for a full term following some of those trial classes, so I must have been doing something right!)

This term though, the studio isn’t offering any more pole dancing trial classes as it’s the already the last term. So I thought I wasn’t going to be teaching any more pole classes.


“Remember to point your toes as you spin…”

But… sometimes things have a funny way of happening!

As it turns out, the guys’ class suddenly needed a teacher because the guy who taught them last term wasn’t free to teach them anymore.

I know right ….the GUYS’ class?!?! It’s not exactly something that was ever on my list of teaching goals, or even something I would have considered a possibility before.

But like I said, things have a funny way of happening.

Now I know what you might be thinking, and no… these guys are definitely *not* the kind of male pole dancers who rock stripper heels, sparkly shorts and fall under the ‘pole sisters’ category. They are dudes.


Planking like pros

Ordinarily, I would never have agreed to teach a bunch of dudes if I wasn’t already kind of familiar with them.

But last term I taught on the same day as their classes, so I ended up seeing them every week and having friendly conversations with them cos well, they’re a nice bunch!

And then of course, my birthday at the studio happened where Po.Lita arranged for all of them to surprise me with a collective lap dance, and I got to know them all so much better up close and personal!

That’s right.  The guys’ class collectively gave me a group lap dance last term right after the studio’s student performances. It was crazy funny, and I don’t think many girls will ever experience 20 dudes taking turns to shake it for them in front of an extremely enthusiastic live audience.

Anyway, my point is that since the guys weren’t total strangers to me anymore, when the opportunity came to teach them some pole, I thought, ‘heck, why not!’.

Thankfully, one of the junior teachers agreed to teach it with me. May is a natural at choreographing and she can bust out power moves on command.

And so, we have been teaching the guys every week for the past month, and it has been a totally new teaching experience!

There are different challenges to teaching guys, like how to modify tricks for them (upper body strength is not an issue but flexibility can be) how to spot someone bigger than us (we get them to partner up and assist us in spotting each other) and how to teach them sexy choreography (The are surprisingly game!)

The song we picked for them is “I Want It That Way” By none other than the Backstreet Boys. Because, Magic Mike 2!!!!!!!

We were initially worried that they might not like it but the moment we played the song for the first time and they all started singing it, we knew it would work. And like one of them casually admitted, they all have a secret Backstreet Boy inside of them, which I fully intend to bring out into the open!

Also, since most of the class had already completed Beginner level last term, it’s been a great chance for us to teach more intermediate-level stuff like inverts and aerial tricks, which they have all the strength for!

I’ve sat into many classes where the Jamilla cradle spin was taught for the first time, and I’d never seen a 100% first-timer success rate until we taught it to the guys! And I do believe that in the history of Bobbi’s Pole Studio here, this is the first time we’ve had a guys class taught by 2 girls. With the extra irony being that I mostly teach the ultra-girly Beginner Slap.

But yes, I know the guys will eventually turn into handspringing/flagpoling/deadlifting beasts and soon I won’t be able to keep up with them anymore. But for now, until they master all the basics, they are still enjoyably teachable. And I get to open the doors every week and actually say, ‘Hello, boys!’ Lol.

Anyway I never would have thought that I’d be teaching a bunch of dudes how to pole dance, let alone be enjoying it, but I thoroughly am.

Oh, and if you’re a Bobbi’s Babe here, they will be performing their awesome Backstreet Boys routine at our very last performance week and it’ll be hot! Just saying…

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Happy, what?

Haha, I wish..

Haha, I wish..

Happy birthday to meee!

Haha I know right, which maniac wishes themselves a happy birthday? …apparently I do!

The truth is though, I’m actually not that huge on birthdays.

It’s been many years since I threw myself a party or had a big celebration (though I always appreciate a good cake) and I don’t need for my hubby to buy me anything unless there was something specific I really wanted.

Like that time he bought me my pole. And that other time he bought me full-length mirrors to go with it. But apart from that, he can save his money on random trinkets.

When he asked me last night if there was anything I would like, (“is there any yoga package/ pole stuff / Victoria Secret shopping you want me to pay for?”) the first thing that popped into my head was, ‘I would like you to mop the floor!’. Cos I do!

So I’m quite easily pleased!

This year in particular , I already feel like I have everything I want and need, and I’m very thankful for it all. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying my life is by any means perfect, but it’s definitely awesome!

Anyhoo, I also wanted to thank you (yes, you!) for being here and reading this. I know I’m a terribly unproductive blogger in general but at least I’m still here! And so are you, so thank you.

And if anyone wants to know, I’m 36 but you can just wish me a happy 21st, 25th, or 27th!

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Waiting for a rainbow

Note to self....

Note to self….

By now, just about every pole dancer in Singapore would have heard the news: Bobbi’s Pole Studio Singapore is closing its doors for good after more than 5 years here.

Our beloved principal and director is moving to Australia with her family, and the studio simply won’t be able to go on without her.

Yes, there are all sorts of rumours flying around about how the studio wasn’t doing well, got eaten up by competition, or fell victim to internal politics… but its actually been flourishing with full capacity classes, and there are more new students now than there have been in the past year and a half. Which just makes things all the more tragic and ironic. But it’s always good to go out on a high note, I suppose…

The news was released on the studio’s Facebook platforms on Sunday night and within minutes, hearts were breaking all over the place and most of my friends were in tears.

Even though I had a longer time to process the news, I’m still completely crushed that my one and only home studio will cease to exist very soon.

People have been asking me what my plans are after Bobbi’s closes, and to be honest I don’t have any because I still can’t picture life without that lovely pink studio that I call my second home.

Of course, in the grander scheme of things I’m well aware that losing your favourite pole studio is but a first-world problem, but that doesn’t mean it hurts any less.

In fact, I’ve already been through all the different stages of grieving: Disbelief (Huh, what do you mean, closing..?), Anger, (WTF?! How could this happen?!!) Bargaining, (Maybe if I sold my house/my kidney/my SOUL then the studio wouldn’t have to close..?) Depression, (My life has no more meaning… *sob!*) and finally Acceptance. (Which doesn’t mean you’ve embraced the situation, only that you’ve come to terms with it as a reality.)

And every morning I’d wake up wondering if I imagined everything, hoping that it was all just a bad dream, and then I’d go through that entire range of emotions again. It felt like being strapped in on a terrible roller coaster ride that just wouldn’t stop and let me off.

But enough already!

This term isn’t over yet, and next term is set to be mad exciting! Cos the studio is bringing back all the most popular routines from the past, and we’re all going to dance our hearts out one last time before the curtains come down on us.

I’ll be teaching my personal favourite Beginner Slap routine next term, Rude Boy by Rihanna, which I am totally looking forward to!

Speaking of beginner Slap, this term my class on Fridays got oversubscribed (what a happy problem!) so I now teach a second class of Beginner Slap on Sundays. I’m also very thankful that I finally get a chance to teach Beginner level pole this term too, as I now teach a trial pole dancing class every Sunday this term as well. If you’ve got friends who’d like to try a taster class, please send them my way!

So anyway, I really don’t know what I’ll be doing after the final Term 5 at Bobbi’s, (aside from trying to blog more often!) but I do know that I’m not going to waste any more time being sad and instead I’m just focusing on making every moment count!

After all, they say that after every storm comes a rainbow… so the only plan I have now is to find it…

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Beginner Slap FTW!

The hot, sexy babes of Beginners Striptease & Lapdance!

The hot, sexy babes of Beginners Striptease & Lapdance!

Oh boy.. it’s already June and I’ve only managed to cheek in to this poor blog a grand total of 4 times!

So much has been going on in my pole life, work life and personal life lately. I’ve had so much I wanted to say and share but so little energy. (I won’t say I didn’t have time, because we all have the same number of hours in the day, and I believe that we make time for our priorities… so if you didn’t do something, it just wasn’t really a priority of yours.)

But to be honest, it’s been tough trying to figure out what’s appropriate to talk about over here now.

There have been times I’ve felt excited, frustrated, ecstatic, bewildered, etc, but I couldn’t tell if they were things I should have been sharing outside of the studio walls.

And when in doubt, say nothing, right? So I did.

I was even approached as a blogger to review online lessons by a pole dancer I really admire and whom I would love to learn from…  I really wanted to do it, but it wouldn’t have been a good idea so I heaved a big sigh and wistfully decided.

At times like that, I wondered if I’ll still be able to blog as freely as I always have, and I still don’t really have the answer yet…


“Oh my, it’s getting cheeky in here!”

What I do know, is that I’ve really enjoyed teaching and that I’ve been learning an incredible amount in a very short time!

I’ve been teaching some hen’s parties, trial classes, and I just taught my first full term of Beginner Strip and Lap Dance. And you know how much I love Slap, so teaching it has been such a pleasure as well!

Funnily enough, when I first joined Bobbi’s Pole Studio as a student 4.5 years ago, the first-ever Slap routine I learned was ‘If’ by Janet Jackson, and I taught the very same routine this term!

So it was twice as special to me. 🙂

Also, I’ve been incredibly blessed to have fabulous students who actually continued showing up week after week, and were a dream to teach.

Sure, you say.. all teachers say their students are awesome… Um, not really.

Teaching aside, I’ve been a student long enough to know that some girls can be downright mean, difficult, and even disruptive. Occasionally in the middle of class! I’ve even heard horror stories about students who’ve told teachers to their face that they didn’t think they were good enough to be teaching them!

So yes, I’m very thankful that my first batch of students were all lovely! And sexy. And Fabulous!

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Stepping into a whole new world!

With my new pole family... I love these girls!

With my new pole family… I love these girls!

Something new has happened since the last time I updated this poor neglected blog and went M.I.A…

At the start of the year I accepted an invitation to start teaching at Bobbi’s Pole Studio Singapore, where I’d been a student for over 4 years now. (Can’t believe it’s been that long!)

That translated into sending an audition video to Bobbi herself, getting approved by her, starting loads of teacher training, performing at the studio as a teacher-in-training, learning how to teach, and rehearsing like mad for the opening number of Amateur Night 2015,  the annual student competition event that was held last weekend.

I barely had time to spend with my cat, let alone had energy to blog about anything!

But now the event is done and I’ve a little breathing space, and so that’s what I’ve been up to.

I’m still getting used to it all, and dealing with the new pace, (it’s a lotttt faster now!) and finding the balance between how I see myself as a pole dancer, and how I need to be seen as a pole dancer, if that makes sense.

Although I’m still very far from where I was over a year ago in terms of strength and stamina, I’ve definitely gotten my pole mojo back cos now I’m super motivated to improve!

And I’ve definitely been having the most fun with pole that I’ve ever had in a long time,  because of the awesome new family of pole sisters that I now have in the new teaching team. (Omg, I’m an instructor now!!..?!!)

Anyway, here’s a video of our debut group performance together. (I start out lying down on the stage right at the start, but once the senior teachers take the stage for their amazing doubles you won’t be able to take your eyes off them!)

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Getting a Grip on 40mm poles


Say hello to my new little friends

This term I had signed up for classes at both Slap Dance Studio and The Yoga Pole Studio, and both studios use 40mm poles in different finishes.

40mm brass is great, but 40mm chrome is… slightly less great.

Over at The Yoga Pole Studio where I do Pole Fit technique classes, the poles are the new generation of brass X-Poles which have a natural, grippy feel to them. And thank goodness for that, because that’s where I got spotted into my first Russian Splits!

By 3 people at the same time, and I’m not even kidding: that’s one person to hold my butt, one to direct my extended leg, and one to glue my foot onto the pole.

(And you thought that pole dancing isn’t a team sport…)

Being a self-confessed grip addict, I usually slather myself in shaving gel. But because the brass finish of the new X-Poles is different from the ones at Bobbi’s, shaving gel can make me a little too grippy… I tried to do a superman once and it felt like my inner thighs were getting waxed by a gorilla. OUCH!

Luckily, I scored a sample pack of Dew Point spray grip to try. (Thanks, Yoga Pole Studio!) It comes in Light, Medium, and Ultra, and is basically a liquid moisturizer for your body. So unlike shaving gel which leaves my knees sticking to each other long after class has ended, the Dew Point sort of disappears into the skin after a while.

The Medium grip gives me just the right level of stickiness for leg hangs and Supermans on new-gen brass X-Poles without leaving fierce red pole burns on my skin. And I’ve successfully learned some new trick combos without too much fear of falling off.

Using chrome poles is a totally different story though! I need to be both super warm and super brave to attempt new tricks, and I still might not be able to pull them off. Shaving gel does nothing for me on chrome except to help me fall off, and even Dry Hands doesn’t seem to help very much.

In fact, I feel like my skill level drops by half on chrome because I just slip and slide off the pole. Simple things like Laybacks become impossible, and I wouldn’t dream of attempting a Russian split even with 5 people spotting me, unless someone invents industrial-strength body magnets that can work on X-Poles.

So far, the Ultra version is the only option out of the three Dew Point options that lets me stay in an Inside leg hang well enough to Allegra, as well as Layback. Which is very useful because you just can’t do a Brass Monkey from Layback when your head has slid all the way down to the floor!

Now that term 1 is over, I can safely say that I can see what the advantages are from the different finishes of poles. Chrome is way gentler on my hands, (but harsher on my self-esteem) and I can do Superman bum rolls without ripping off any skin. whereas the new stickier brass X-Poles are great for overall confidence in trying new tricks.

In all, training at 2 new studios and trying out different tricks and styles has been a great eye-opening experience. But I have to confess that I still miss my familiar 38mm brass… 

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