‘What do you wish someone had told you?” (When you’d first started poling)
My responses are:
I wish someone had told me that…
1) Its normal not to progress as fast as ‘everyone else’ does, and that I would definitely get better over time.
It took a while for me to realize that there’s an entire range of different learning curves when it comes to physical learning. And that I actually fall somewhere in the middle, and not right at the tail end like I thought I did. Which is perfectly fine, too.
But back then when I was struggling to get my basic inverts and felt like the… Slowest.. Person.. Around.. Ever, it would have helped to know just how long it had taken some others as well.
And if I’d only known how far I would progress from then, and that everything really does eventually get so much easier with time and practice, I wouldn’t have felt the need to rush myself to improve.
But then again, nah… I’d still have rushed myself to improve!
2) that I would probably get injured somewhere along the way, and that minor sprains and pulls are normal, pretty common, and not something to freak out and worry so much about!
Oh, the angst this one would have saved me! That first wrist sprain, that first back sprain, that first pulled hip flexor.. all incited panic and the fear that I might not be able to continue. But here I am, still fine and perfectly functional.
I do wish someone had told me right from the start: You’re going to get injured somehow. But it’s no big deal if you just manage it sensibly because the body is an amazing healer!
Nowadays when I pull/sprain/hurt something, I know it’s only a temporary set back and part of the process. I can even roughly evaluate what went wrong, why it happened in the first place, and learn from the mistake! Of course, mistakes will still happen but at least if the day comes that I ever fall off my pole, *touch wood!!!* I’ll be more able to maintain my cool.
3) that not all of my friends would ‘get’ how pole isn’t just another hobby but an entire awesome lifestyle, and not to care if they don’t. Cos no one else gets a pole dancer the way her pole sisters do!
This one took the longest to come to terms with and it still occasionally bothers me, actually. While my friends have been very supportive in general, sometimes a negative judgement or two still shows up. A friend once commented that pole dancing is ‘basically pussies in the air’, which I found surprisingly hurtful.
But I can understand why pole dancing can seem threatening. When I first started, I could barely deal with the sight of so many bare bodies moving in tune with their sensuality, let alone face my own! Whether through pole dancing or another means, it’s the very confrontation of our sexuality and the embrace of our sensuality that is the doorway to our inherent power as females. That power in ourselves that gets buried by reason and responsibility, and sometimes gets forgotten about entirely.
And unless you’ve experienced that (re)discovery for yourself, you only understand it as a concept. Kinda like falling in love, or giving birth… you can’t know what it’s really like until you’re there. Which is why I wish I could share it with my non-poling friends sometimes.
But to each their own, and I’m just happy to have embarked on this amazingly fun journey.
What do you wish someone had told you?
I’d really love to know!