Happy, what?

Haha, I wish..

Haha, I wish..

Happy birthday to meee!

Haha I know right, which maniac wishes themselves a happy birthday? …apparently I do!

The truth is though, I’m actually not that huge on birthdays.

It’s been many years since I threw myself a party or had a big celebration (though I always appreciate a good cake) and I don’t need for my hubby to buy me anything unless there was something specific I really wanted.

Like that time he bought me my pole. And that other time he bought me full-length mirrors to go with it. But apart from that, he can save his money on random trinkets.

When he asked me last night if there was anything I would like, (“is there any yoga package/ pole stuff / Victoria Secret shopping you want me to pay for?”) the first thing that popped into my head was, ‘I would like you to mop the floor!’. Cos I do!

So I’m quite easily pleased!

This year in particular , I already feel like I have everything I want and need, and I’m very thankful for it all. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying my life is by any means perfect, but it’s definitely awesome!

Anyhoo, I also wanted to thank you (yes, you!) for being here and reading this. I know I’m a terribly unproductive blogger in general but at least I’m still here! And so are you, so thank you.

And if anyone wants to know, I’m 36 but you can just wish me a happy 21st, 25th, or 27th!

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Waiting for a rainbow

Note to self....

Note to self….

By now, just about every pole dancer in Singapore would have heard the news: Bobbi’s Pole Studio Singapore is closing its doors for good after more than 5 years here.

Our beloved principal and director is moving to Australia with her family, and the studio simply won’t be able to go on without her.

Yes, there are all sorts of rumours flying around about how the studio wasn’t doing well, got eaten up by competition, or fell victim to internal politics… but its actually been flourishing with full capacity classes, and there are more new students now than there have been in the past year and a half. Which just makes things all the more tragic and ironic. But it’s always good to go out on a high note, I suppose…

The news was released on the studio’s Facebook platforms on Sunday night and within minutes, hearts were breaking all over the place and most of my friends were in tears.

Even though I had a longer time to process the news, I’m still completely crushed that my one and only home studio will cease to exist very soon.

People have been asking me what my plans are after Bobbi’s closes, and to be honest I don’t have any because I still can’t picture life without that lovely pink studio that I call my second home.

Of course, in the grander scheme of things I’m well aware that losing your favourite pole studio is but a first-world problem, but that doesn’t mean it hurts any less.

In fact, I’ve already been through all the different stages of grieving: Disbelief (Huh, what do you mean, closing..?), Anger, (WTF?! How could this happen?!!) Bargaining, (Maybe if I sold my house/my kidney/my SOUL then the studio wouldn’t have to close..?) Depression, (My life has no more meaning… *sob!*) and finally Acceptance. (Which doesn’t mean you’ve embraced the situation, only that you’ve come to terms with it as a reality.)

And every morning I’d wake up wondering if I imagined everything, hoping that it was all just a bad dream, and then I’d go through that entire range of emotions again. It felt like being strapped in on a terrible roller coaster ride that just wouldn’t stop and let me off.

But enough already!

This term isn’t over yet, and next term is set to be mad exciting! Cos the studio is bringing back all the most popular routines from the past, and we’re all going to dance our hearts out one last time before the curtains come down on us.

I’ll be teaching my personal favourite Beginner Slap routine next term, Rude Boy by Rihanna, which I am totally looking forward to!

Speaking of beginner Slap, this term my class on Fridays got oversubscribed (what a happy problem!) so I now teach a second class of Beginner Slap on Sundays. I’m also very thankful that I finally get a chance to teach Beginner level pole this term too, as I now teach a trial pole dancing class every Sunday this term as well. If you’ve got friends who’d like to try a taster class, please send them my way!

So anyway, I really don’t know what I’ll be doing after the final Term 5 at Bobbi’s, (aside from trying to blog more often!) but I do know that I’m not going to waste any more time being sad and instead I’m just focusing on making every moment count!

After all, they say that after every storm comes a rainbow… so the only plan I have now is to find it…

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Beginner Slap FTW!

The hot, sexy babes of Beginners Striptease & Lapdance!

The hot, sexy babes of Beginners Striptease & Lapdance!

Oh boy.. it’s already June and I’ve only managed to cheek in to this poor blog a grand total of 4 times!

So much has been going on in my pole life, work life and personal life lately. I’ve had so much I wanted to say and share but so little energy. (I won’t say I didn’t have time, because we all have the same number of hours in the day, and I believe that we make time for our priorities… so if you didn’t do something, it just wasn’t really a priority of yours.)

But to be honest, it’s been tough trying to figure out what’s appropriate to talk about over here now.

There have been times I’ve felt excited, frustrated, ecstatic, bewildered, etc, but I couldn’t tell if they were things I should have been sharing outside of the studio walls.

And when in doubt, say nothing, right? So I did.

I was even approached as a blogger to review online lessons by a pole dancer I really admire and whom I would love to learn from…  I really wanted to do it, but it wouldn’t have been a good idea so I heaved a big sigh and wistfully decided.

At times like that, I wondered if I’ll still be able to blog as freely as I always have, and I still don’t really have the answer yet…


“Oh my, it’s getting cheeky in here!”

What I do know, is that I’ve really enjoyed teaching and that I’ve been learning an incredible amount in a very short time!

I’ve been teaching some hen’s parties, trial classes, and I just taught my first full term of Beginner Strip and Lap Dance. And you know how much I love Slap, so teaching it has been such a pleasure as well!

Funnily enough, when I first joined Bobbi’s Pole Studio as a student 4.5 years ago, the first-ever Slap routine I learned was ‘If’ by Janet Jackson, and I taught the very same routine this term!

So it was twice as special to me. :)

Also, I’ve been incredibly blessed to have fabulous students who actually continued showing up week after week, and were a dream to teach.

Sure, you say.. all teachers say their students are awesome… Um, not really.

Teaching aside, I’ve been a student long enough to know that some girls can be downright mean, difficult, and even disruptive. Occasionally in the middle of class! I’ve even heard horror stories about students who’ve told teachers to their face that they didn’t think they were good enough to be teaching them!

So yes, I’m very thankful that my first batch of students were all lovely! And sexy. And Fabulous!

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Stepping into a whole new world!

With my new pole family... I love these girls!

With my new pole family… I love these girls!

Something new has happened since the last time I updated this poor neglected blog and went M.I.A…

At the start of the year I accepted an invitation to start teaching at Bobbi’s Pole Studio Singapore, where I’d been a student for over 4 years now. (Can’t believe it’s been that long!)

That translated into sending an audition video to Bobbi herself, getting approved by her, starting loads of teacher training, performing at the studio as a teacher-in-training, learning how to teach, and rehearsing like mad for the opening number of Amateur Night 2015,  the annual student competition event that was held last weekend.

I barely had time to spend with my cat, let alone had energy to blog about anything!

But now the event is done and I’ve a little breathing space, and so that’s what I’ve been up to.

I’m still getting used to it all, and dealing with the new pace, (it’s a lotttt faster now!) and finding the balance between how I see myself as a pole dancer, and how I need to be seen as a pole dancer, if that makes sense.

Although I’m still very far from where I was over a year ago in terms of strength and stamina, I’ve definitely gotten my pole mojo back cos now I’m super motivated to improve!

And I’ve definitely been having the most fun with pole that I’ve ever had in a long time,  because of the awesome new family of pole sisters that I now have in the new teaching team. (Omg, I’m an instructor now!!..?!!)

Anyway, here’s a video of our debut group performance together. (I start out lying down on the stage right at the start, but once the senior teachers take the stage for their amazing doubles you won’t be able to take your eyes off them!)

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Getting a Grip on 40mm poles


Say hello to my new little friends

This term I had signed up for classes at both Slap Dance Studio and The Yoga Pole Studio, and both studios use 40mm poles in different finishes.

40mm brass is great, but 40mm chrome is… slightly less great.

Over at The Yoga Pole Studio where I do Pole Fit technique classes, the poles are the new generation of brass X-Poles which have a natural, grippy feel to them. And thank goodness for that, because that’s where I got spotted into my first Russian Splits!

By 3 people at the same time, and I’m not even kidding: that’s one person to hold my butt, one to direct my extended leg, and one to glue my foot onto the pole.

(And you thought that pole dancing isn’t a team sport…)

Being a self-confessed grip addict, I usually slather myself in shaving gel. But because the brass finish of the new X-Poles is different from the ones at Bobbi’s, shaving gel can make me a little too grippy… I tried to do a superman once and it felt like my inner thighs were getting waxed by a gorilla. OUCH!

Luckily, I scored a sample pack of Dew Point spray grip to try. (Thanks, Yoga Pole Studio!) It comes in Light, Medium, and Ultra, and is basically a liquid moisturizer for your body. So unlike shaving gel which leaves my knees sticking to each other long after class has ended, the Dew Point sort of disappears into the skin after a while.

The Medium grip gives me just the right level of stickiness for leg hangs and Supermans on new-gen brass X-Poles without leaving fierce red pole burns on my skin. And I’ve successfully learned some new trick combos without too much fear of falling off.

Using chrome poles is a totally different story though! I need to be both super warm and super brave to attempt new tricks, and I still might not be able to pull them off. Shaving gel does nothing for me on chrome except to help me fall off, and even Dry Hands doesn’t seem to help very much.

In fact, I feel like my skill level drops by half on chrome because I just slip and slide off the pole. Simple things like Laybacks become impossible, and I wouldn’t dream of attempting a Russian split even with 5 people spotting me, unless someone invents industrial-strength body magnets that can work on X-Poles.

So far, the Ultra version is the only option out of the three Dew Point options that lets me stay in an Inside leg hang well enough to Allegra, as well as Layback. Which is very useful because you just can’t do a Brass Monkey from Layback when your head has slid all the way down to the floor!

Now that term 1 is over, I can safely say that I can see what the advantages are from the different finishes of poles. Chrome is way gentler on my hands, (but harsher on my self-esteem) and I can do Superman bum rolls without ripping off any skin. whereas the new stickier brass X-Poles are great for overall confidence in trying new tricks.

In all, training at 2 new studios and trying out different tricks and styles has been a great eye-opening experience. But I have to confess that I still miss my familiar 38mm brass… 

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Oh, hai again!

Happy-new-year-fireworks-2015-photoWhy, hello there!

So here we are at the start of another brand new year!

I can’t believe how quickly the end of the year flew by. (And how little attention I’ve been giving this poor blog. But I did mention previously that I’d be blogging less from now on right? No major reason except plain old laziness. But it’s okay when nobody cares anyway! ;D)

But yeah, the last few months of 2014 went by in a haze. All I remember of it is: Going to Sydney to watch MPDA (which was AMAZING!), going back to the airport 2 days after coming home from Sydney to leave for a work trip, then working, Working, WORKing, and WORKING until the 3rd week of December when I spent 2 blissful weeks on leave, decompressing and trying to get back into a fitness habit.

Because up until that point, work had just taken my life over.

Oh, and Christmas and New Years.

But seriously, all work and no pole play makes me a very sad girl. I’d missed the last 2 lessons of Prep Advanced at Bobbi’s because I just couldn’t afford the time or energy. I didn’t even go for yoga, let do any pole practice!

So lame, I know.

But I have spent the past couple of weeks slowly getting back into shape a fitness habit and I intend to maintain a healthy work-life balance in 2015. Because if I don’t make it a top priority to, months and years could easily pass by without me even realizing it, and one day I might wake up, look in the mirror, and see a sad, overweight frump with too many chins!!!

Hey, it could happen to anyone okay.

At least, that’s what flashed in front of my eyes when I first realized that I had lost most of my previous levels of stamina.

Even before that whole year-end avalanche of work happened, I hadn’t done very much pole. I’d taken a break from Prep Advanced for half a year, and just taking one month off from the level that challenges you is all it takes to start losing touch.

So here I am, still far away in terms of stamina and confidence from where I was almost a year ago.

The scary thing is that I signed up for Pole Hard this term at the newly-opened SLAP Studio. The one time I did pole practice there to test out the 40mm chrome poles, I was slipping and sliding around so much, it felt like I was back in Intermediate 2. On the positive side, it somewhat looks like I can do a jade drop in slow-motion because of the lack of grip.


Honestly, I don’t know how I’ll manage to do anything on chrome after being a brass junkie for the past 4 years. But it’s too late now cos the new term at SLAP starts tomorrow.

Anyhoo, since I don’t have anything else interesting to say, here are some photos from my Sydney pole trip.

Trust me, I intended to post an entire entry on how amazingly awesome Sydney with the girls was but kept getting distracted by the pressing need to procrastinate so these will just have to do!

What do you just after landing at the Sydney airport? You take a cab to Bobbi's Pole Studio and do a private Pole Grooves class with Jedda Jordan of course!

What do you just after landing at the Sydney airport? You take a cab to Bobbi’s Pole Studio and do a private Pole Grooves class with Jedda Jordan of course!


We did explain to the friendly guy who helped us snap this pic that it's totally normal to pose like this in public but he just didn't too seem convinced.

We did explain to the nice guy who helped us snap this pic that regular women always pose like this in public and it’s totally normal. 

Pole merch. It makes us excited.

Pole merch. It gets us excited.

The money shot!

The money shot !

Best opening number ever! Yes, that's Cleo on the drums at the back.

Best opening number ever! Yes, that’s Cleo The Hurricane on the drums at the back.

Giant cake, check. Hot men in thongs and thigh highs, check. Maxi Shields, check. Chilli Rox in pasties and a thong, check. What more do you want?!

Giant cake, check. Hot men in thongs and thigh highs, check. Maxi Shields, check. Chilli Rox in pasties and a thong, check. What more do you want?!

You can't tell in this shot, but I wore my "Bobbi's Babe" tank top just to take this pic with Bobbi.

You can’t tell in this shot, but I wore my “Bobbi’s Babe” tank top just to take this pic with Bobbi.

Ah, Fontaine! So hot you'll break a sweat just watching her move.

Ah, Fontaine! She’s so hot you’ll break a sweat just watching her move.

The Winners on stage.

The Winners on stage.

Saying, "Cheese!!!" With Chilli, Roxy, and Evie Jo at Bobbi's Sydney.

Saying, “Cheese!!!” With Chilli, Roxy, and Evie Jo at Bobbi’s Sydney. Okay, we actually said something a lot naughtier ;P


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